Education Now and Babies Later
Here are 10 simple tips from the experts to
help you have ongoing discussion with your
children.
1. Seek “teachable moments.” Make use of daily opportunities
that occur when you are with your children that make it easy
to share your messages and values.
2. Remind yourself that it is okay to feel uncomfortable. It is often hard
to talk about sexual matters. Relax and tell your children you
are talking with them because you love them and want to
help them
3. Don’t wait until they ask a question. Many children never ask questions.
4. Be “askable.” Reward a question with, “I’m glad you came to me.” It will
teach your children to come to you when they have other questions and
that you are open to talking with them about sexuality issues.
5. Consider the “question behind the question.” The unspoken question
“Am I normal?” is often hiding behind many questions about sexual
development, sexual thoughts and sexual feelings. Reassure your
children as often as possible.
6. Listen. Ask them why they want to know and what they already know.
That may help you prepare your answer.
7. Remember that facts are not enough. Share your feelings, values and beliefs.
Then, tell your children why you feel the way you do.
8. Talk about the joys of sexuality. Tell your children that loving relationships
are the best part of life and that intimacy is a wonderful part of adult life.
9. Keep in mind that you are talking with your children because you care about their
happiness and well-being. You are also sharing your values, helping to build a
foundation for them to become sexually healthy adults.This is one of the
real joys of parenthood.
10. Find out about the sexuality education program in your local schools, faith communities,
and youth groups. Ask your children, teachers, principals, superintendents,
school board members, and faith leaders about the programs that are
being taught in your community.
help you have ongoing discussion with your
children.
1. Seek “teachable moments.” Make use of daily opportunities
that occur when you are with your children that make it easy
to share your messages and values.
2. Remind yourself that it is okay to feel uncomfortable. It is often hard
to talk about sexual matters. Relax and tell your children you
are talking with them because you love them and want to
help them
3. Don’t wait until they ask a question. Many children never ask questions.
4. Be “askable.” Reward a question with, “I’m glad you came to me.” It will
teach your children to come to you when they have other questions and
that you are open to talking with them about sexuality issues.
5. Consider the “question behind the question.” The unspoken question
“Am I normal?” is often hiding behind many questions about sexual
development, sexual thoughts and sexual feelings. Reassure your
children as often as possible.
6. Listen. Ask them why they want to know and what they already know.
That may help you prepare your answer.
7. Remember that facts are not enough. Share your feelings, values and beliefs.
Then, tell your children why you feel the way you do.
8. Talk about the joys of sexuality. Tell your children that loving relationships
are the best part of life and that intimacy is a wonderful part of adult life.
9. Keep in mind that you are talking with your children because you care about their
happiness and well-being. You are also sharing your values, helping to build a
foundation for them to become sexually healthy adults.This is one of the
real joys of parenthood.
10. Find out about the sexuality education program in your local schools, faith communities,
and youth groups. Ask your children, teachers, principals, superintendents,
school board members, and faith leaders about the programs that are
being taught in your community.
